Are we rejecting ourselves when it comes to our passion, our vision, our dreams, our abundance, sense of receiving, or our self worth? And if we are, is it because we would rather reject ourselves, rather than have someone else reject us?
Sometimes self-rejection comes from feeling like we are never enough, we’re not good enough, we don’t do enough, we don’t learn enough, just a feeling that we are not good enough for whatever situation we are in. We are always wanting to be more, in our families, with our friends, in our appearance or even in our money situation. We are not open to recieving the good things in life. We don’t think we deserve whatever good comes to us. And if anything good does come into our lives we look at it as if its a fluke. Sometimes, we even think that if something good happens to us, then something bad is bound to happen right away.
Sometimes self-rejection comes in the form of dimming our light. A lot of times we dim our light because we don’t want to be responsible for the expectations that are put upon us, or we are afraid of the lack of approval from others. We know that if we dim our light we can stay in the background where nobody will notice us, then, if we make a mistake, we won’t be horrialby embarassed. Because it seems that the need for other people’s approval of us is more important than the need to approve of ourselves.
Often times when we get rejected, we spend so much time worrying about being rejected, that we don’t realize that there is something better waiting for us around the next corner. The important thing about rejection is that we learn from it and become a better person. Other people’s opinion of us should not define us. We need to give ourselves permission to be who we are reguardless of what other’s think or say about us. This is not an easy task, because we are so used to being who everyone else thinks we are, it is hard to show who we really are.
What we need to remember is that self-rejection is something we do to ourselves, whether conciously or unconciously. We need to stop taking things personally, because everyone comes from their own perspective, and that is their perspective, it has nothing to do with us. If we can develop our rejection muscle, and notice when we are in rejection mode, then we will understand and recognize, that is not our story. Once we start to recognize when we are being hard on ourselves, we can then, stop, and nurture ourselves, doing at least one kind thing for ourselves during the day. This will give us some balance, and help us learn how to give ourselves permission to be ourselves.
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