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Overcoming Adversity
In talking with a friend of mine the other day I realized that we are all going through challenges in our lives. We are living in a time that is changing rapidly and some of us are having a hard time keeping up. Add to this the adversities that we have had in our lives and we get stuck, depressed, anxious and worried. We start to feel like we are the only ones on earth who are going through a tough time. Well, I am here to tell you, you are not alone. Everyone, from the wealthiest person, to the bum on the street, has gone, or is going through some kind of adversity. The real test of a person’s character is how do we get through it and come out on the other side with our passion for life still in tact?
Count your blessings! That’s it. By counting our blessings we will see that there are some things in our life worth living for. When we focus on the good things in our life, then, we can overcome adversity against all odds. Each one of us was born for a reason, we each have a purpose for being on this earth. Finding the thing that gives us a passion for life is what our purpose is. Whatever we are doing right now is what we are supposed to be doing. There is something to learn, not for us to keep to our self, but to share with others. That doesn’t have to be a big, grand or over the top idea, it is more about the little things in life. When each person does something small, collectively it adds up to something big. Whether your passion is for people, animals or the earth, that is up to each individual. Just do it, and the results will come.
When our backs are against the wall and there is no light at the end of the tunnel, that’s when we have to shift our mindset. We can use our time of adversity to think out of the box, be practical and simplify our life. Remove the junk that is blocking the way to success. This can be physical or mental. When there is clutter in our life or in our mind we can not move forward. We need to remove the clutter in our life by either cleaning up our environment or our minds, removing the things or the thoughts that are not of use to us anymore. Whether it be an old worn out mindset, or couch, it doesn’t matter, if it doesn’t bring us joy or it doesn’t create an atmosphere for creativity then it is not of use in our lives. Be flexible, open minded and aware when it comes to opportunities. They are all around us if we just take the time to look. Sometimes we put ourselves in a box and think that there is only one way of doing things, but when it comes to overcoming adversity, we need to recognize that we can use our adversity to our advantage. In finding a way out of our struggles, we have found a solution to our problem, this can then be used to help others who may be having the same problem, that creates opportunity.
Surrounding ourselves with people who have the same goals as we do is great, but surrounding ourselves with people who have the skills we lack is the key to our success. We need each other, and not one person has all the skills it takes to be successful. It is just like a good marriage, they say that opposites attract, well, that is because where one person lacks the other picks up the slack. That is how it is in life. We find the people who, not only share in our passion, but also have what it takes to work together, to get us to our next level in life. By working together, we can spread the wealth, and boost the economy. By pulling our resources we can come together and solve, not only our own problems, but also help someone else with theirs.
“Find your purpose”, “be courageous”, “face your fears”, don’t just know these cliches, live them. That is where the fire burns, is in actually living your purpose, actually being courageous, and actually facing your fears. Whatever they may be, whatever is going on, whatever is holding you back, don’t let it! Stand up, take charge and go for it. Quit looking for purpose in life, whatever you are doing is your purpose, and in there somewhere is your passion, that is what you need to find, what is it that drives you each day to get up and move, why do you keep getting up each day, who is important enough to keep you going, when are you going to realize that you are important, where are you going and why are you alive? Important questions that will change your life. Be yourself and remember that in adversity is where we find out more about who we are.
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Balanced Energy, Balanced Life
When we think about energy we usually think about the energy we use to power our car, or our house, or even our body, but, the energy that I am talking about is the energy that powers our life. We use this energy everyday without even being aware of it. This kind of energy is the energy we feel when we walk into a room where two people have been fighting, and even though they may not be speaking, there is an energy in the room. Most people will even say, “the tension was so thick you could cut it with a knife”. This is the same energy that surrounds two people who are madly in love, then, we might hear the phrase, “Love is in the air”. There is no denying that this energy exist, we feel it all the time, but, it’s just not something that is acknowledged all the time.
In our life, this is the energy that drives us to take action. This energy is what gives us the desire to fulfill our basic needs for, food, clothing and shelter, which also includes the need to connect to humanity and the environment. This energy is what pushes us to be a creative and powerful force, using our sexuality and creativity together with our power and sensitivity to accomplish our goals in life. Its what gives us our desire to love and be loved, while also giving us the ability to communicate with others openly and freely, to listen and be heard. This energy also gives us our more spiritual desires like, insight and knowledge, together with, fulfillment and contentment. When all these areas of our life are in harmony and flowing freely, we have balanced energy and a balanced life. We are healthy and strong and we are able to live a life that fulfills all our desires.
We should understand that this energy is a system in our body and in this system there are certain points of concentrated energy. I have written a book that explains how each of these energy points are associated with a certain area of our body. It starts at the root energy and works up through the body to the crown energy.
That doesn’t necessarily mean that each of these points are an entity in and of themselves. When our energy system is opened and balanced each point flows into another, working together, to create peace, harmony and contentment in our life. I believe that each day carries it’s own energy. So, as we will go through each day, we can connect a certain energy point with a certain day. The reason why I use one day to focus on one energy point is to help us become aware of each energy point and see how it works in our life as a whole. So, once we have accomplished our goal of recognizing our energy points, we will find that there are certain triggers throughout each day that will remind us of a certain energy point, no matter what day it is.
I have written this book to help each of us learn how to integrate our energy system and be aware of how it works, in our day to day life. In each chapter I explain, why we are connecting an energy point to a certain day, what the benefits can be for focusing on that energy point and the areas of the body that energy point affects. We will go through some of the exercises that are beneficial in getting a certain energy flowing and I will explain how, even what we eat and how we eat it, carries an energy with it. We will find out how, what we wear affects us and those around us, how what we focus on throughout the day makes us aware of a certain energy point and even add in some “me” time at the end of our day to help us unwind. By using each day to focus on one energy, we will, then, become so familiar with that energy, that when we see, hear, touch, taste or know certain triggers on any given day, we will recognize them, and associate them with the appropriate energy point. Then, we will begin to notice, that our energy is moving and flowing freely and how it is affecting our life.
There are many energy points in our body, but in the book, we focus on the seven major ones. We have a root energy point that grounds and connects us, we have a sexual energy point that connects us to our creativity, there’s our core energy point that connects us to our power, our heart energy connects us to love, our throat energy connects us to our communication, our brow energy point connects us to our intuition and our crown energy point connects us to our spirituality. Getting these energies integrated into a free flowing, balanced, opened and aligned
system is what we are aiming for by focusing on the different areas of our life. By taking control of our own life and not waiting for someone to come along a get us out of our situations, we will look, feel and move differently in the world. It is up to each individual person to do what they can to make their life better.
The reason why it is important for each individual to pursue a healthy life is because it affects society as a whole. If we look at ourselves as being a vehicle for energy, then, as we move through our day, we are the only ones who can be responsible for the energy we bring with us. That energy doesn’t just stay with us, it radiates out from us and into the world, that’s why we can feel tension or love in the air. If we are not happy, satisfied, content or healthy, then we have to ask ourselves, “What kind of energy am I putting out into the world?” And then, if we look at that energy collectively, we can see that it makes a difference in how our whole world operates. If we had more happy, satisfied, content and healthy people in the world, then, our world would be a happy, content, satisfying and healthy place to live.
This energy system is working in our life right now, without us even recognizing it. If we focus our attention on certain aspects of our life and become aware of how this energy system operates, then, by changing certain things we do, we can tap into it and use it to change our life. Awareness is the key, focusing on each moment and staying in the present is what helps us balance our energy and our life. This is not a process that happens overnight or within the week. We will not get through the book, come to the end of the week and say, “O.K., my life is completely changed and I am balanced, healthy and happy”. That’s not how it works, it is different for everybody. One person may get to the end of the week and see a difference, another person may get to the end of the week and see no change at all. It depends a lot on how much effort and time we put into changing and how seriously we take what we are doing. Don’t get me wrong, this is not a book that is going to be a physical boot camp. It is more like boot camp for the soul, it is fun and happy, but also, hard and emotional. But, if we really want to see change in our life we have to go through some challenges, but, it is those challenges that give us a sense of accomplishment, which is how we change our life.
I do not expect that as we go through each day we will be able to accomplish everything in that day. Like I said it is a process that has to be integrated slowly into our lives. It may take days, months or even years, depending on how much we desire to change. I know that this book may not be for everyone, you may be a person who does not believe what I am saying or you may be a person who doesn’t really want to change, or you may even believe that it does work, but don’t want to put the time and effort into it right now. That’s O.K., because everyone is on their own path, with their own timing and living their own truth. That is what life is all about anyway, living your own truth and learning your own lessons. I am not trying to convince anyone they should do anything. I am not trying to start my own cult or religious movement. I look at this book as if I am planting a seed, sometimes the seed falls on rocky ground, which means it may take some time for it to sink in and take root or it doesn’t take root at all; it may fall into weeds, which means that there may be too much clutter and confusion in ones life right now for this information to be useful and then, it may fall onto fertile ground, where it is the right thing at the right time, but, whatever ground it falls on it will still take time to grow. I have learned in the past twenty years or so about this energy that moves through us and I am using it to change my life and I just want to share this information with you.
Another thing I would like to touch on is, just because we are balancing our energy and our life doesn’t mean that nothing challenging will ever again happen in our life. We will still get angry, sad, hurt, depressed at times, and even have a moment or two of guilt, rage or regret. We have been told that these are negative or bad emotions. We have been taught to suppress these emotions. We read self-help books, take medication, meditate and pray trying to get rid of these emotions. What I would like to do is give a different perspective. What if we were to embrace these emotions? What if to look at these emotions as tools to help us get to know ourselves better. For centuries we have been looking for ways to get rid of them, pushing them down by not acknowledging them. I don’t believe that is working, because I don’t believe we are supposed to be doing that. I believe we are supposed to be using them for our benefit and the benefit of others.
Here’s what I mean. Suppose we get mad at someone for something they have done to us. We feel justified in our anger so we tell people how a certain someone made us angry and how we are justified in our anger and then those people tell someone and on and on. So now we have created these negative energy trails. Now, lets look at the same scenario differently, instead of telling people about our negative experience, what if we say to ourselves, “What is it about me that made me so angry at that person or situation?”. WHAT!, you might say, ME?, I didn’t do anything, why should I blame myself? Here’s the thing, its not about blame, its about opening up to who we really are and finding out what it is that makes us tick. If we ask ourselves a question about being angry, sad, frustrated or whatever, we might find that it is our belief’s about how we should be treated or what someone else should or shouldn’t be doing or saying. It is about us, not them. They have just triggered something inside us that has opened up an old emotional wound or are even mirroring what we don’t like about ourselves. By asking ourselves questions about our negative emotions we can use them to heal us, which will start to make us think differently about things. We can do this with any emotion we ever have, if we want to find out why we are the way we are, all we have to do is ask our self, “Why am I having this emotion”, good or bad, and we can’t just ask, we have to answer.
I’m sure we have all heard the saying, “Life is a roller coaster”, but what I’m saying is that it doesn’t have to be that way. Yes, we still have emotions, but, those emotions do not have to run our life. We don’t have to give into the impulse to act on our emotions. We can look at everything through the same lens of love, love for others and love for ourselves. We can use our emotions as learning tools, not for what we learn about other people, but, what we learn about ourselves. We will no longer need to place blame or guilt, we will no longer have to hold grudges and get revenge, because the more we know about ourselves the more compassion we will have for others, knowing that none of us are faultless, we all deserve forgiveness and should be forgiving.
There is a quote I love about forgiveness that says, “Forgiveness is letting go of the hope that the past could be any different”, I love this because it means that we do not have to forgive for the other person, we forgive for our self, so that we don’t have to carry so much emotional baggage, which makes it easier for us to move on. The only time in our life that is real is the present. We can not change the past and we do not know what the future holds. The only part of our life that is real and holds the truth is right now, in each moment.
So, I hope you enjoy the book, I pray that each day brings you closer to being the person you truly want to be. Even if this book isn’t for you, whatever it is that you believe and hold true is what is good for you. This is what makes our world such a wonderful place to be in. We can hold our own truths inside of us and never let them go. No matter what is happening around us, no one can touch what is inside of us. We hold the key to the answers of our life, we know instinctively what is good for us. We just have to listen to our inside for answers, instead of looking to the outside. We don’t have to be so quick to place blame on others for our situations, our emotions and our actions, we don’t have to be so unhappy, feeling like we have to work ourselves to death to feel like we are successful. We can realize the important things in life are, having relationships, caring about our environment and enjoying our life; we don’t have to hate our jobs, hoard our money or worship our things. Life can be easy if we just learn to let go of control and trust that things work out the way they are supposed to, whether we are striving against the current or going with the flow. If we allow ourselves the freedom to let go of everything, then we are attached to nothing, and then fear cannot control us any longer.
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EMBRACE CHANGE
Life is all about change. Everything is changing constantly. We are changing, our environment is changing, the way we do business is changing, our world is changing. The question is, “In what ways are we changing and do we celebrate those changes?” Change can be more about opportunity than a challenge. Since everybody and everything is constantly changing, we ask ourselves “Is it always for the good?”
We live in such a fast paced world. Everybody is on warp speed trying to get everything done. Some people thrive on always having a full plate, while most of us are drained, exhausted, stressed and frazzled. It does not have to be like that. We can learn to slow down, become more comfortable with who we are, we can become more available and attract better, deeper relationships, we can relax more and stop feeling like we have to always be doing something all the time.
We can start by learning how to choose, not only our battles, but our schedules. Are you a all or nothing kind of person, doing very little in moderation? Keep in mind that we can ware ourselves out trying so hard to get it all done immediately. We tend to go completely overboard when trying to make changes in our lives. We wake up one day and think, “I need to make a change in my life.”, and then by the end of the day feel defeated because we didn’t accomplish the results we were looking for. It takes hard work and dedication to arrive at the goals we set for ourselves; it is especially important to remember that it takes baby steps to achieve the worthwhile things in life. Results never happen in a day or even overnight. By taking small steps when trying to change we will have a much better chance of accomplishing and achieving our goals.
People like recognition. We like it when others tell us that what we are doing is good, helpful and inspiring. That is what makes us feel good. But, again, we can ware ourselves out trying so hard to get the approval of others. Looking for that pat on the back and having someone tell us, “Good job”. If we are doing something in our lives that makes us happy and we feel good about, that is all that counts. We do not need to be worried about who approves.
Another thing that can be very stressful in our lives is opening ourselves up to other peoples emotional turmoil. We tend to try to solve everybody else’s problems other than our own. We spend more time caught up in other peoples excess baggage than concentrating on ours. We have a mindset that we need to handle everything that comes our way. But that is not true. What we should be doing is prioritizing. We need to make a list of whats important to us and our families and stick to that list. We need to learn to say “NO” to the things that don’t get us closer to the goals on our list.
So what is it that you want to change? Make a list of those things that you want to change in your life and don’t be too hard on yourself. Allow yourself time to evolve. Take responsibility for your internal change. Evolution is about constantly growing, and realizing that it doesn’t ever end. Don’t resist change, don’t be a person who has to hit a wall before they realize that change is inevitable. Ease into change. Know that things are going to change and allow yourself the gift of going with the flow of change.
As we change the people around us notice our changes and they will either change with us or they will resist the change. We should surround ourselves with the people that will support our changes and encourage us to change for the better. Change is good, and by changing the way we think about change, the more uninhibited we become. So lets celebrate our changes and realize that every single day is a day is another opportunity for change, we can wake up everyday and start all over again.
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CHANGING LIFE
How important is it for us to prosper, have a great self-image, communicate clearly, have worthwhile relationships, and live our lives knowing that we are always making the right decisions? Sound to good to be true? Well, that is what we can have if we live our lives in the moment instead of in the past or in the future. Its about living a life of Truth.
What is Truth? It is when stop using our intellect and start looking within ourselves to give us the information we need to be who we Truly are. This can be called our higher self, the voice of inner Wisdom, or our intuition but what is it really? Its all the information that we need that is available to us in each moment.
When we go inside to find Truth we are putting ourselves through a process of clearing out false beliefs, false memories and false images about ourselves and our lives. Its when we combine contemplation with meditation. Getting in tune with ourselves and releasing all data stored up inside our minds. And then receiving the Creative Energy we need to change our lives. Getting out of confusion and the dark. When we go within the light shines and that light reveals to us whatever information we need in the form of Creative Energy.
We are usually motivated to make a change in our lives when we are going through troubles. That’s when we start with self rejection, thinking we are not good enough the way we are, hating where we are. This is the engine that powers the train that motivates us to change. When we feel ourselves caught up in a web of self-defeating thoughts and actions. Where do we turn? Who has the answers? Where do I go from here? Mostly looking outside of ourselves for the answers. STOP! The first thing we need to do is go within to find the Love. We need to start embracing ourselves exactly where we, that’s where transformation happens.
Where does the Truth that is within us come from? When we are confused and need clear direction in our lives we think that our answers are somewhere out there. Truth isn’t something that we receive from someone or something as a one time gift and then we can move on with Wisdom, Knowledge and Truth firmly planted in us, no longer having to think about it. We are always flowing, moving, and growing, therefore, we have to be aware at all times, constantly living moment to moment. Then Truth is revealed to us from within, not without. We are given the grace to see that we need Truth and then we can start the process of removing false and receiving Truth. Then the light comes in and we get a wake up call and the Creative Energy starts flowing.
So many of us today are struggling financially. Why is that and how can we gain the Truth we need to get out of our situations? Each of us struggles for our own reasons, however the beauty is when we go within to receive our Truth, the questions we ask ourselves are a reflection of our individual struggles, therefore, our Truth will be geared toward our own personal belief system we have stored inside our minds. When we do the work of letting go of false beliefs and ideas that hold us back, we will get the answers that we need.
So if the question we ask ourselves is “why am I not there yet?”, we won’t get the correct answer because that can’t be the question. That question will only reveal the false, because that question is a rejection of where we are and now we are caught in the negative which is false. That is self rejection that can never guide us to the Truth. Truth can only be revealed in the moment, that is the only Real. That is where Love, Power, Wisdom and Light reside and where we can, then, receive our Creative Energy. So, the question we should be asking is, “What are the false beliefs and ideas I have that I need to understand? What is preventing me from receiving the Truth I want?”
When we are in Truth, we can embrace ourselves exactly where we are, because that’s where all our information is. So don’t let our questions to ourselves be about the negative or the false beliefs or ideas we have, because what we want is to be in Truth. Falseness is a rejection of ourselves and where we are because we think we want to be in a better or different place. Truth allows us to be exactly where we are so we can learn. If we do not recognize where we are and accept it with total non-judgement then we can’t learn from it and then find Truth which leads to receiving the Creative Energy that changes our lives.
There are a lot of people who are overwhelmed with all the responsibilities in life, many of us would like to have more focus and more direction in our life. We have a belief that it will take to much time. That is not Truth, because if we have time to breath, then we have time to know Truth, its that easy. Truth is the moment we are in. If we ask ourselves a question, we can close our eyes, relax, trust that the answer will come, and the rest is not our business. When we focus on our breath in and our breath out, then our Truth will arise from us and we will receive our Creative Energy.
Falseness guarantees our suffering, and we do not need to suffer. The questions we ask ourselves determine whether we let go of false beliefs and ideas and find Truth or if we remain in the dark, trying so hard to find the way out. Because Truth is all about self acceptance and acceptance of all those around us, wherever we are, the false focuses on rejection. How many questions do we ask ourselves everyday? We have so many questions and if they are rejecting, then we cannot come to the Truth. We need to be willing to go inside ourselves and accept ourselves just the way we are and be accepting of others just the way they are, and from that place we will naturally evolve, move and grow, it can’t be helped. From there we get the Creative Energy we need to move forward and change our lives.
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How Are You Communicating?
Communication is one of the things that can hold you back in business. Grammar IS important. People are judging you by your communication style, your dress, your body language and your speech. One big area where you are judged is your use of pronouns. In business people will pay attention to the emails you send and your social networking profiles. When you are speaking to people and you make a mistake in grammar people may think that you just made a careless error, but when you are writing it you are putting it out there for the world to see. With the technology that is out there today where everything is abbreviated we are loosing our use of correct grammar. Even though you may not be unintelligent you will come across as unintelligent by your improper use of grammar.
The common theme of women who struggle in business is not having presence. You have to remember that as representatives of your companies you will not always be working with people your same age. You will have to deal with people who are older and more mature than you are. So, when you are trying to sell yourselves or your product you should always keep in mind that you will be judged by our presence. So to enhance your presence you should be concerned about your body language, facial expressions, demeanor, dress, and image.
Another thing to think about is how well you think on your feet. Senior executives will notice things like how long it takes you to answer a question. So you not only need to know the rules of English grammar, but you should also be concerned with our presence. This will help you to come across as credible. It all comes down to your look, your language and your likability. If you want to be successful in business and in life, you have to be willing to work on yourself, internally and externally.
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Are Your Emotions Getting In The Way Of Your Success?
Warren Buffet says, ” If you can’t manage your emotions don’t expect to manage money”. How are they related?
We all suffer on some level from destructive emotions. When we don’t allow ourselves to recognize them or release them it can totally mess up, not only our week or month, but also our life. The chemistry that happens in our brains from destructive emotions releases cortisol and adrenaline which is destructive and aging to our bodies. Our emotions are real and we need to allow ourselves to feel them. We should let our emotions go as opposed to holding onto them and then being led by them. When we don’t let go of our emotions they store up in our body and cause disease. So if we don’t handle our emotions, we cannot be successful, because of the toxins that are being stored in our body.
Most people can be divided into two types of people, those who totally suppress their emotions and those that can’t control them. We have emotions for a reason and we need to take the time to deal with them and move on. Also our attitude and the way we hold ourselves plays and important role in how we feel. Our body language is very important and says a lot. If we are always holding our heads down, feeling like a victim all the time our minds tell us, apathy and then our brain releases cortisol, but if we hold our heads up high and smile, our mind says joy and we feel happier and better about ourselves. Energy always shifts, so when we are in a dark place, let us shift our energy by changing our circumstances and doing something different.
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