Searching For Answers That Will Never Be Found…

How did it all get, so out of hand?

How did we stop caring, about our land?

When did we start judging each others choices?

When did we stop hearing each others voices?

Who are we without the mask?

Who are we without a task?

What makes you more perfect than me?

What makes you think, we must agree?

Why do we argue about who is right?

Why do we think we have to fight?

The questions are simple, the living is not…

We wake up each day all tied up in knots…

Searching for answers that will never be found…

Waiting to be buried six feet under the ground…

Thank you, I’m sorry, forgive me I pray…

I don’t understand, but one day I may.

Life As Meditation

What is true meditation?

Can the mind, that only knows what is known, reveal the unknown?

Is what we think of as truth, really truth, or is it a projection of the mind with it’s ideas, beliefs and experiences?

Are our minds made up of our conditioning? What we’ve been taught or what we’ve read or what we’ve listened to? Do we read about truth or listen to words that we accept as truth, but are merely other people’s ideas?

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Overcoming Adversity

In talking with a friend of mine the other day I realized that we are all going through challenges in our lives. We are living in a time that is changing rapidly and some of us are having a hard time keeping up. Add to this the adversities that we have had in our lives and we get stuck, depressed, anxious and worried. We start to feel like we are the only ones on earth who are going through a tough time. Well, I am here to tell you, you are not alone. Everyone, from the wealthiest person, to the bum on the street, has gone, or is going through some kind of adversity. The real test of a person’s character is how do we get through it and come out on the other side with our passion for life still in tact?

Count your blessings! That’s it. By counting our blessings we will see that there are some things in our life worth living for. When we focus on the good things in our life, then, we can overcome adversity against all odds. Each one of us was born for a reason, we each have a purpose for being on this earth. Finding the thing that gives us a passion for life is what our purpose is. Whatever we are doing right now is what we are supposed to be doing. There is something to learn, not for us to keep to our self, but to share with others. That doesn’t have to be a big, grand or over the top idea, it is more about the little things in life. When each person does something small, collectively it adds up to something big. Whether your passion is for people, animals or the earth, that is up to each individual. Just do it, and the results will come.

When our backs are against the wall and there is no light at the end of the tunnel, that’s when we have to shift our mindset. We can use our time of adversity to think out of the box, be practical and simplify our life. Remove the junk that is blocking the way to success. This can be physical or mental. When there is clutter in our life or in our mind we can not move forward. We need to remove the clutter in our life by either cleaning up our environment or our minds, removing the things or the thoughts that are not of use to us anymore. Whether it be an old worn out mindset, or couch, it doesn’t matter, if it doesn’t bring us joy or it doesn’t create an atmosphere for creativity then it is not of use in our lives. Be flexible, open minded and aware when it comes to opportunities. They are all around us if we just take the time to look. Sometimes we put ourselves in a box and think that there is only one way of doing things, but when it comes to overcoming adversity, we need to recognize that we can use our adversity to our advantage. In finding a way out of our struggles, we have found a solution to our problem, this can then be used to help others who may be having the same problem, that creates opportunity.

Surrounding ourselves with people who have the same goals as we do is great, but surrounding ourselves with people who have the skills we lack is the key to our success. We need each other, and not one person has all the skills it takes to be successful. It is just like a good marriage, they say that opposites attract, well, that is because where one person lacks the other picks up the slack. That is how it is in life. We find the people who, not only share in our passion, but also have what it takes to work together, to get us to our next level in life. By working together, we can spread the wealth, and boost the economy. By pulling our resources we can come together and solve, not only our own problems, but also help someone else with theirs.

“Find your purpose”, “be courageous”, “face your fears”, don’t just know these cliches, live them. That is where the fire burns, is in actually living your purpose, actually being courageous, and actually facing your fears. Whatever they may be, whatever is going on, whatever is holding you back, don’t let it! Stand up, take charge and go for it. Quit looking for purpose in life, whatever you are doing is your purpose, and in there somewhere is your passion, that is what you need to find, what is it that drives you each day to get up and move, why do you keep getting up each day, who is important enough to keep you going, when are you going to realize that you are important, where are you going and why are you alive? Important questions that will change your life. Be yourself and remember that in adversity is where we find out more about who we are.

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PASSION IS PURPOSE

What does it mean to live our purpose? What do we need in order to find our passion and accomplish our goals? Where do we find the strength to move forward? When we talk about these things there is a feeling we get inside of us that makes us excited and want to know more. We think, yes, tell me what it is so I can get it and know what to do. But, the problem is, that we have to find it on our own. Nobody can tell us what our purpose is or how to find it. It is up to each person to find their own path to their passion. It’s not as hard as we think, though. Its about connecting, connecting to our inner self that knows what makes us want to fight for what we believe in. Taking the time to quietly sit with ourselves and tap into our core and feel the fire of what is burning inside of us, that needs to get out. That’s what passion is. The only way we will have the strength to fight for what we want, is to live passionately.

I know that when we talk about passion we get excited and then when we’re told we have to find it on our own we get let down, but, here’s the thing, all we need to do is to take action. Not just any action, but, inspired action. Start searching, that’s how we can find out what it is we are passionate about. Just do something and even if we fail, that’s success, because we have found out what is not our purpose and we can move on to the next thing. Don’t give up, these days we have no excuse for not doing what we need to do to find our purpose, with the internet we can find out about anything, we can explore all our options, before we even take one solid action, we can take a step. Once we find our passion, then we can set our goals and tap into our inner strength and every day we can acquire the knowledge we need to achieve those goals. Setting ourselves up for success, is to tap into the true essence of our self and be a person who lives their purpose. We can do this by awakening the warrior within, its not about waring ourselves out driving towards that goal, so focused on it that we lose track of what we’re trying to accomplish, its about connecting to our purpose and tapping into that thing inside of us that we know, that we know, that we know, we are supposed to do. Once we understand where that passion comes from, research it and take action, it will take on a life of its own and lead us to where we need to go. Its not a head thing, its a heart thing.

Can we live our purpose and create the life we want without being a warrior? NO! Being a warrior means standing up for what we believe in. Its what gives us the strength we need to move forward, taking the steps necessary to accomplish any goal we set for ourselves and gives us the excitement and the enthusiasm to carry it out regardless of the obstacles that get in the way. One of the biggest obstacles we face is ourselves. We are the ones who will talk ourselves out of living our passion. We are the ones who tell ourselves we’re not good enough, we don’t drive a nice enough car, we’re not pretty enough, we’re not smart enough or we don’t have enough money. We go on and on telling ourselves how we are NOT going to accomplish our dreams. But, these are the obstacles that we can overcome if we just believe in ourselves and take the steps necessary to move forward, then, things have a way of working themselves out. I have never heard anyone who was successful that said they never had an obstacle to overcome. I am a writer, I love to write and regardless of what others tell me, I will write. In doing research on writing, I have found so many stories of rejection. Everyone who writes has been rejected by publishers, by the press, by other people’s opinions or by their own self talk. Rejection is what we need to push us and let us know if what we are doing is what we are passionate about, because without rejection we would not know what success is. When we are rejected by others or even ourselves and we do it anyway, that’s passion, that’s our purpose!

We can accomplish anything we want, there are no limits, only the limits we set for ourselves. Its not about having our heads in the clouds, its about waking up everyday and connecting with our inner self. We must make some time for ourselves or we will not know what makes us happy, excited about life, joyfully enthusiastic and enlightened. Wake up earlier than everyone else in the house, sit quietly and hear the still small voice of God speak. What a special moment that is, a moment that everyone experiences differently. Each of us is an individual with unique talents and gifts and no one person is exactly like another. We can chose how we want to live by connecting to our purpose, connecting to our inner power, connecting to our inner peace and connecting to our inner discipline. We are not going to war against anyone or anything, we are engaging in something bigger than ourselves, we are creating and we are standing for something. It’s more about surrendering than warring, we need to surrender to our passion and our purpose, living a life that flows freely. We do not have to struggle against the current, if we are being true to ourselves we will flow with the current of life. To know our purpose, is to be willing to give up everything to follow our passion. That’s when we know we are doing what need to do, that is being true to our self, that’s how we overcome obstacles. When we are willing to give up everything, then we’re concerned about nothing, which frees us and allows us to create whatever we want.

Be brilliant, shine and glow, there is a light inside of us that will only shine when we are lit up from the inside. The fuel for that fire is passion, a passion that comes from being uniquely ourselves. No one thinks the same way, moves the same way or lives the same life, no matter how close we are to others, we are closer to ourselves. We spend more time getting to know other people than we do ourselves, we believe more in others more than we do ourselves, we encourage others more than we encourage ourselves and we engage more with others than we do with ourselves. Again I want to say, lets embrace our individual uniqueness, and then we’ll be able to embrace the uniqueness of others. While we are trying to get people to understand us, let’s start by understanding others. Dare to be different by accepting the difference in others. Instead of competing with each other we can stand in our own space, a space that is unique to who we are, and allow others to do the same. We can work with others, instead of against them. Keep in mind that nothing happens overnight, everything takes time, but, we will never get anywhere if we don’t start somewhere. Taking baby steps each day will bring us closer and closer to our goals. Stay in the Now of each moment and enjoy life right now, don’t continue to look to the future for someday. Someday is here and now, each moment of everyday is the tomorrow we create, so make it as pleasant as possible, then, one day we’ll look back on today and say, “Those were the days”.

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HAPPY VALENTINES DAY! I Think?

In doing research for this blog I came across some interesting information. My intention was to write about St Valentine and how we came to celebrate St Valentine’s Day. Well, to my surprise, there is no one St. Valentine and there is no connection between St. Valentines day and any of the three Valentines that were martyred at different times and buried on February 14.

There is a legend however, that tells of a St Valentine who was persecuted for being Christian. When being interrogated by Roman Emperor Claudius II, the Emperor tried to convert St. Valentine to paganism in order to save his life, but Valentine refused and tried to convert Claudius to Christianity instead. For this he was executed, but before he was executed he preformed a miracle by healing the daughter of the jailer, who was blind. In the romantic version that was given to history.com by American Greetings, the night before Valentine was to be executed he wrote a letter to his “beloved”, believed to be the daughter of the jailer, and signed the letter “From your Valentine”. Nice story, but there is no historical proof that this actually happened.

Before 1797 there were a limited number of Valentine’s Day cards being printed called “mechanical valentines”. After 1797, a British publisher issued the Young Man’s Valentine Writer, which contained a mass amount of suggested sentimental verses for those who were unable to compose their own. Because of the reduction in postal rates, it became easier for people to send anonymous Valentines day cards to each other. So, by the 19 century paper Valentines Day cards became so popular in England that they started to be produced in mass, by factories. The United States started mass producing them shortly after 1847 by Esther Howland, whose father owned a large book and stationary store. She was inspired by an English Valentine she received from a business associate of her father’s.

So you see, here we are in 2012 looking forward to Valentine’s Day so we can receive our bouquet of flowers, box of chocolates and a heart shaped pendant, all in the name of love. It’s a day of proposals, first dates, date nights and weddings. All because of a romantic story perpetrated by a card company as a marketing strategy to sell more cards. What are we to make of this? Look, I am all about love and romance and I am all for giving our loved ones romantic gifts and cards, but why are we doing it the name of a saint who doesn’t even exist, because of a story that has no proof? Why do we need a specific day to honor our loved ones? Why can’t we make everyday a day that we cherish our loved ones and make them feel special?

We have become so commercialized nowadays that we don’t know real from fake, truth from false or fact from fiction. Our economy is the way it is today because of people trying to live a fake life, by living above their means. We have become a society obsessed with the need for things, judging ourselves by our looks and comparing ourselves to what others hold in high regard. Now is the time to get real! Lets get real about our finances, our relationships and our lives. Lets get our heads out of the sand and live our lives as authentic, real and truthful human beings, loving each other everyday, flaws and all and not just on one particular day set aside for love.

NO MORE FEAR

I am writing this blog post today from the heart. I just want to say how excited I am about the upcoming year. I feel it is going to be an exciting one. There is so much to look forward to. I am aware that the media wants to paint a year of chaos and destruction, but that is only because it good marketing. We are living in a fear based society that craves a good doom and gloom story. Why do we love fear? It is very obvious that most people love the feeling of being afraid or roller coasters and horror movies wouldn’t be so popular. But what makes us want to live in fear? I have heard thrill seekers say that it makes them feel alive and gets their adrenaline flowing.

I realize that there is such a thing as facing our fears. If we are afraid of something and do it we will find out that there was nothing to be afraid of in the first place. But, there is a difference between facing our fears and living in fear. There are those who live in constant fear of the unknown. It seems like every time we get past an “end of the world” date, someone makes up another, keeping us in constant fear. And the funny thing is we fall for it every time. It is as though we are looking at our demise as some kind of thriller movie. If the media and the people who are promoting and making money off of fear would spend the same amount of time and money on promoting love instead of fear, joy instead of sadness and peace instead of war we would have hope instead of fear.

I for one am going to stay out of the fear and stay in love. I refuse to let the media and the promoters of doom and gloom take away my hope. I pray for a world that will stop worrying, stop being afraid, and stop the chaos that is causing separation. I pray that we will come together as one consciousness and change the doom to hope, the gloom to light, and ultimately the fear to love. I pray that this year will bring us closer than we have ever been in the past, that we would see that our differences are what make us the same, and that we ultimately all want the same things in life, peace, love and happiness.

Happy New Year to you all,

Sindy Williams

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Why We Reject Ourselves

Are we rejecting ourselves when it comes to our passion, our vision, our dreams, our abundance, sense of receiving, or our self worth? And if we are, is it because we would rather reject ourselves, rather than have someone else reject us?

 

Sometimes self-rejection comes from feeling like we are never enough, we’re not good enough, we don’t do enough, we don’t learn enough, just a feeling that we are not good enough for whatever situation we are in.  We are always wanting to be more, in our families, with our friends, in our appearance or even in our money situation. We are not open to recieving the good things in life. We don’t think we deserve whatever good comes to us. And if anything good does come into our lives we look at it as if its a fluke. Sometimes, we even think that if something good happens to us, then something bad is bound to happen right away.

 

Sometimes self-rejection comes in the form of dimming our light. A lot of times we dim our light because we don’t want to be responsible for the expectations that are put upon us, or we are afraid of the lack of approval from others. We know that if we dim our light we can stay in the background where nobody will notice us, then, if we make a mistake, we won’t  be horrialby embarassed. Because it seems that the need for other people’s approval of us is more important than the need to approve of ourselves.

 

Often times when we get rejected, we spend so much time worrying about being rejected, that we don’t realize that there is something better waiting for us around the next corner. The important thing about rejection is that we learn from it and become a better person. Other people’s opinion of us should not define us. We need to give ourselves permission to be who we are reguardless of what other’s think or say about us. This is not an easy task, because we are so used to being who everyone else thinks we are, it is hard to show who we really are.

 

What we need to remember is that self-rejection is something we do to ourselves, whether conciously or unconciously. We need to stop taking things personally, because everyone comes from their own perspective, and that is their perspective, it has nothing to do with us. If we can develop our rejection muscle, and notice when we are in rejection mode, then we will understand and recognize, that is not our story. Once we start to recognize when we are being hard on ourselves, we can then, stop, and nurture ourselves, doing at least one kind thing for ourselves during the day. This will give us some balance, and help us learn how to give ourselves permission to be ourselves.

 

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TRUE ABUNDANCE IN LIFE

Money, now there is a word that peaks peoples interest. We take money into consideration for every decision we make in our lives. It has been said that money is,  “the root of all evil”, that “when we have money we have power”, and “money makes our world go round”. But, is that really true? I think we need to ask ourselves; Is it the LOVE of money that is the root of all evil? Is money the only way to have abundance in life? Shouldn’t LOVE make the world go round? Can we have appreciation and live a life of gratitude even without money? Continue reading “TRUE ABUNDANCE IN LIFE”

EMBRACE CHANGE

Life is all about change. Everything is changing constantly. We are changing, our environment is changing, the way we do business is changing, our world is changing. The question is, “In what ways are we changing and do we celebrate those changes?” Change can be more about opportunity than a challenge. Since everybody and everything is constantly changing, we ask ourselves “Is it always for the good?”

We live in such a fast paced world. Everybody is on warp speed trying to get everything done. Some people thrive on always having a full plate, while most of us are drained, exhausted, stressed and frazzled. It does not have to be like that. We can learn to slow down, become more comfortable with who we are, we can become more available and attract better, deeper relationships, we can relax more and stop feeling like we have to always be doing something all the time.

We can start by learning how to choose, not only our battles, but our schedules. Are you a all or nothing kind of person, doing very little in moderation? Keep in mind that we can ware ourselves out trying so hard to get it all done immediately. We tend to go completely overboard when trying to make changes in our lives. We wake up one day and think, “I need to make a change in my life.”, and then by the end of the day feel defeated because we didn’t accomplish the results we were looking for. It takes hard work and dedication to arrive at the goals we set for ourselves; it is especially important to remember that it takes baby steps to achieve the worthwhile things in life.  Results never happen in a day or even overnight. By taking small steps when trying to change we will have a much better chance of accomplishing and achieving our goals.

People like recognition. We like it when others tell us that what we are doing is good, helpful and inspiring. That is what makes us feel good. But, again, we can ware ourselves out trying so hard to get the approval of others. Looking for that pat on the back and having someone tell us, “Good job”. If we are doing something in our lives that makes us happy and we feel good about, that is all that counts. We do not need to be worried about who approves.

Another thing that can be very stressful in our lives is opening ourselves up to other peoples emotional turmoil. We tend to try to solve everybody else’s problems other than our own. We spend more time caught up in other peoples excess  baggage than concentrating on ours. We have a mindset that we need to handle everything that comes our way. But that is not true. What we should be doing is prioritizing. We need to make a list of whats important to us and our families and stick to that list. We need to learn to say “NO” to the things that don’t get us closer to the goals on our list.

So what is it that you want to  change? Make a list of those things that you want to change in your life and don’t be too hard on yourself. Allow yourself time to evolve. Take responsibility for your internal change. Evolution is about constantly growing, and realizing that it doesn’t ever end. Don’t resist change, don’t be a person who has to hit a wall before they realize that change is inevitable. Ease into change. Know that things are going to change and allow yourself the gift of going with the flow of change.

As we change the people around us notice our changes and they will either change with us or they will resist the change. We should surround ourselves with the people that will support our changes and encourage us to change for the better. Change is good, and by changing the way we think about change, the more uninhibited we become. So lets celebrate our changes and realize that every single day is a day is another opportunity for change, we can wake up everyday and start all over again.

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